Pain Made Me The MAN I Am Today.
- Benjamin D. Williams Jr.
- Feb 14, 2023
- 2 min read
Take a walk with me King/Queen.
Growing up, my biological mom wasn’t able to be there for me. We didn’t really communicate until I was around 16. I love and forgave her. I was a skinny kid with a missing tooth in high school, no confidence. Every last one of my girlfriends cheated on me. I also didn’t witness the healthiest marriages growing up. I used to compromise to be accepted/liked and my kindness was taken advantage of many times. All of this created trust and abandonment issues. My core beliefs were formed in my early years and I had unresolved trauma.
In 2011, I used to drive hours to do presentations for work and nobody showed up, but I kept going. My dream was to be wealthy. In 2014, I had no money to pay my rent, car note, or buy food. I was living paycheck to paycheck. My pay increased, but was inconsistent in 2017-2018. It was stressful trying to pay my mortgage and give my wife the finer things. I felt like I was drowning and could never balance finances with the life I desired. There were times I had to Uber until 12am to make ends meet. I had massive credit card debt, but real men don’t make excuses they find a way. In 2020, I lost my wife/best friend of 13 years due to disloyalty on my end. I fought long and hard to win her back and no luck. After attempting to date and get into another relationship, it finally hit me... until we heal the deep rooted traumas from childhood and the past, we will continue to hit brick walls. We attract things that are deeply rooted in our subconscious minds. The reality is most people don’t even know they have trauma or limiting beliefs. Many people don’t want to face the person in the mirror and take accountability for what they need to work on because it’s hard and it hurts! With that being said, I would take the hard route every time! Because when you take the hard route, life becomes easier. Pain equals growth. Are you willing to feel the pain? With all that I’ve been through, I wouldn’t change anything (except the hurt that I have cause others). Hurt people, hurt people. This pain (and I say it in the present tense because I still feel it) made me the man I am today! I welcome pain, it’s fuel for greatness. Nobody cares about what you’re going through, they only pay attention when you are winning…And still I stand… Accept the challenges and the pain and Go Fuckin WIN!
P.S. Never seek revenge, GOD’S lessons are enough. Have grace for everyone. Forgive everyone, it’s for you, not for them. Never assume, have a conversation with that person and never ever give up especially on yourself!
- Benjamin D. Williams Jr.
Benjamin is also an author! His book "The Eagle's Mandate" is available on Amazon.
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